Bits + Pieces 094
33 Reflections on my Birthday
Hello friends :),
"You can spend your whole life waiting for someone else to give you the answer, whether it’s your parents, your partner, someone older, or a mentor. But what I’ve learned is that no one truly has the answer. You have to believe in yourself, trust your instincts, and make the best decision you can with what feels right in the moment."
This is a soundbite from a Zoom interview with my mum earlier this week. I’m currently writing my parents biographies and I’m learning a lot.
The process inspired me to reflect yesterday as it was my birthday. I shared some of these with my friends at dinner last night and we had a really lovely conversation.
So, as we enter Spring Equinox, I share a few lessons I’ve picked up over the past 33 years.
I feel so blessed and lucky—thank you for being here!!
Love you,
Tish xxxxxxxxx
The quality of your relationships are as good as your ability to repair
Big investments are big bets on yourself. Bet on yourself and see how you rise to the challenge
Cry in front of your friends and let them hold you
There’s only love or fear, choose love
You can’t change someone. Fully accept them for who they or leave
You don’t always need to give a response. Listening is powerful
“That sounds really good/interesting [insert descriptive word], let me sit on that and get back to you” is the best line I’ve ever learned to give me the space to respond vs. react
Saying the very thing you think is cringe or awkward or vulnerable is the very thing that will bring you closer
Your time is sacred and limited. Choose who you give your energy to
Energy is currency
Dare to dream. Put that thing on your vision board, write out the narrative for the life you desire. Believe that it’s possible
Listen more
Product market fit is very important
Solitude and alone time is precious. It helps you build your relationship with yourself
The first arrow doesn’t kill you, it’s the second arrow. If you do something you’re not proud of or you feel guilty/ashamed etc, learn to forgive yourself. Also, learn to forgive others, it’s the path to liberation
Have the hard conversation. The one that you couldn’t dream of having but if you’re honest, takes up the most space in your brain….
There’s no wrong decision. The only wrong decision is not taking a decision
Looking to others for answers can help, but you ultimately know what you need to do. Trust your intuition
Business is massive, consistent, imperfect, action
It’s not selfish to look after yourself. You need to look after yourself and tend to yourself in order to tend to those around you
Assume you know less than you think you know. Be humble
Move your body every day
Eat food that nourishes you
Have periods of time when you’re off social media/offline
Commit to practices that bring you into presence
Be kind. Look people in the eyes. Put your phone away when you’re ordering
You can’t cheat grief. Don’t be scared. Go through it, welcome it, feel it, be with it
Try something new. Book the class. Take the course. Go on the trip. Explore
Be big. Be small. Be whatever you want. Don’t let people tell you who you are. You know who you are. Listen to that inner voice, and honour it. You will need to be brave but you can do it
Get very very very clear on your values, and then live your life in alignment with them. Let them be your north star
You are worthy of love. You are worthy and whole
The more you show up as your true, authentic self, the more people you’ll attract that are your people, and your crew
Smile
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Happy Birthday!!!