Cody William Smith, A Moment’s Reflection, 2013
Hello there,
Glad you clicked through and opened this.
Listen up…most people don’t just wake up and feel confident when posting on social. You don’t just click your fingers and know how to present yourself online. When we see people on social doing this, it’s normalised that it’s easy and that everyone should be able to do it but that’s a load of BS.
What we don’t see is the process and evolution to get to that final product. Herein lies the most important part. It’s not about the end product, it’s about the process. The more we focus on the end product ie: showing up on social media, the more we’re moving away from the process .
This week I’m sharing some notes on how you can move…
FROM feeling scared TO feeling excited
FROM not knowing what to post TO planning ideas to share and post
FROM a fear of judgement TO moving towards confidence
Start with your WHY first. Who are you and why? You have to get confident and clear on your why before you get to your how (here’s an old Simon Sinek video that’s still very relevant)
Ask yourself, are you scared/confused/stuck because you genuinely need more training/education/product or service refinement, or is it fear and anxiety of being judged, or your strive for perfectionism etc? Be honest with yourself…
Start to write down conversations you have with client/peers/mentors, articles you’re reading or things you’re watching and listening to. Pick out the points that interest you and write down your opinion next to them. These will form pieces of content you can share
Choose 2 cheerleaders in your network who you can count on to cheer you on throughout the process of showing up online. THIS IS IMPORTANT. So much of the process of showing up online is about maintaining confidence and being encouraged. Whenever you’re feeling shitty or down, lean on your cheerleaders
LASTLY understand that showing up online is part content and part practice. The more you do it the easier it will get. You need to commit to frequently showing up online so you can slowly build new neural pathways in your brain that go from fight or flight (thinking you’re going to die when you post) to finding ease, calm, and confidence in posting. THIS IS IMPORTANT. We’re wired to think something terrible will happen if we post or show up online as ourselves. Our brain can’t distinguish between perceived danger of a new thing, and actual danger. It takes action to re-wire our brain. There’s no quick fix solution (sorry!) you have to physically do this to re-wire and re-program. This is why the cheerleader step is so important to help you feel encouraged and loved in the process of showing up online
I promise you it will get easier. Please don’t be hard on yourself. We need to support and encourage each other and be each others cheerleaders. I feel this so deeply. More love, compassion, joy and kindness <3
Here for the process and here for you,
Tish xxxxxxxxxx
So helpful!